online COUNSELING in IDAHO

Therapy for High-Achievers Who Felt Like They Didn’t Fit in Growing Up

A safe place to be without striving and feel without shame.

I help highly sensitive, high-achieving adults find balance, self-trust, and calm, without losing their edge.

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You can handle a lot. But it’s hard.

My clients are driven, thoughtful, and deeply responsible — often the ones everyone turns to when things need to get done.

Yet underneath it all, they feel:

Tired of holding everything (and everyone) together
Like no matter how much they do, it never feels like enough
Constantly “on,” even when they’re supposed to be resting

They learned early that competence brought safety. That being capable kept things calm.

Now, achievement feels less like choice and more like survival — necessary just to stay okay.

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You became good at a lot because you had to be.

If your childhood was unpredictable or emotionally chaotic, achievement may have been how you found stability and belonging. You learned to read the room, anticipate needs, and stay composed, even when you were hurting.

You may have been told you were too sensitive or that you were overreacting.

You were compared to others, told to “be more like…”

You learned that being perfect — and easy for others to be around — earned affection, acceptance, or peace.

Those patterns helped you survive. But now, they leave you exhausted.

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Even when you’re maxed out, you’re overachieving.

You say yes when you want to say no.

You volunteer for the committee no one else wants, take on extra projects, or become the go-to for your child’s carpool shifts.

You feel guilty when you rest or ask for help.

You feel crushed by constructive feedback, even when it’s kind — because the part of you that equates perfection with safety can’t help but brace.

You know something needs to change, but you don’t know how to stop.

You might even recognize that you’re the child of over-functioning parents.

You want to feel balanced, without losing your edge or what makes you you.

You don’t want to burn it all down (well, maybe there’s a part of you that’s curious about that…). Mostly, you just want to work less hard to feel like yourself.

You want:

To slow down and really feel calm, not just pretend to
To respond instead of react
To feel confident saying no
To rest and still be successful

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I help highly sensitive, high-achieving adults stop striving for self-worth and start trusting they are enough.

Together, we make space for what’s real — your emotions, your body, your needs. I help my clients tune into their nervous systems, recognize outdated beliefs, use emotions as data, and find clarity about what truly matters when everything feels like a priority.

In our work together, my clients often learn to:

Listen to their body’s cues instead of pushing through
Recognize what’s theirs to carry — and what’s not
Create and communicate boundaries that meet their needs
Rediscover joy so life doesn’t feel like one long to-do list

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You can stop running on empty.

At some point, you probably realized there was no level of achievement that could make you feel like you belonged — and that’s a powerless place to be. It’s also the moment something deeper in you starts paying attention.

Therapy can help you reconnect with yourself, with others, and with success in a way that actually meets your needs.

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Meet Sara Gourley, LPC

I’m a licensed professional counselor in Idaho who helps highly sensitive, high-achieving adults reconnect with their inner wisdom. My relational approach weaves together Gestalt Therapy, parts work, attachment theory, and somatic awareness — helping you slow down, get curious, and live a life that feels like your own.